Empowering Women: Thriving in Spite of Imposter Syndrome

Written by Andrea King-Smith, published May 9, 2023

Do you ever struggle with accepting compliments or feel you don't deserve your accomplishments? Perhaps you find yourself overworking and avoiding new challenges due to the fear of failure. If so, you may be experiencing Imposter Syndrome.

Imposter Syndrome is a psychological phenomenon characterized by feelings of self-doubt, anxiety, and a persistent fear of being exposed as a fraud, despite evidence of success and competence. It is a common experience among high-achieving individuals, particularly impacting women, and can be a significant barrier to personal and professional growth.

In this blog, we will explore some of the symptoms of Imposter Syndrome and discuss strategies for overcoming it. But first, let me tell you about myself.  I am Andrea King-Smith, a former 911 dispatcher and supervisor who has experienced Imposter Syndrome firsthand.

I grew up in 9-1-1 and knew from the first phone call I took that I was called to this profession.  For 14 years, I wore the headset proudly at the Las Vegas Metropolitan Police Department, in the community where my family and I still live.  After about 7 years, I decided to pursue a promotion to supervisor and ultimately ranked number 1 on the promotion list during my second attempt. While waiting for my list to be certified, I was offered the opportunity to serve as an acting supervisor.

During my four years in a leadership position at the agency, the six months I spent as an acting supervisor proved to be the most challenging. I expected the difficulty to stem from learning a new job, but it was actually the overwhelming self-doubt, perfectionism, and fear of making mistakes that consumed me. I struggled with the belief that my appointment was simply convenient for the agency and that my colleagues did not view me as a real supervisor. Looking back, I believe that if I had replaced even one of those negative thoughts with a positive affirmation, such as "I earned this position and I am a competent leader," I would have had a smoother transition into leadership. However, at that time, I was not aware of the concept of imposter syndrome.

My experience is not uncommon. Imposter syndrome can lead to a lack of confidence and a reluctance to take risks, ultimately limiting one's potential. In fact, Many high-achieving women, including some you would least expect, have times where, despite their impressive accomplishments and accolades, they often experience self-doubt and feel like they don’t deserve their success. Here are some quotes from four successful women who have spoken publicly about their experiences with imposter syndrome:

Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook and author of "Lean In": "There are still days when I wake up feeling like a fraud, not sure I should be where I am."

Maya Angelou, author and poet: "I have written eleven books, but each time I think, 'uh oh, they’re going to find out now. I’ve run a game on everybody, and they’re going to find me out.'"

Emma Watson, actress and activist: "It's almost like the better I do, the more my feeling of inadequacy actually increases, because I'm just going, Any moment, someone's going to find out I'm a total fraud, and that I don't deserve any of what I've achieved."

Michelle Obama, former First Lady: "There are days when I walk into a room full of people and feel like, 'What am I doing here?'"

These quotes highlight how even the most successful and accomplished women can struggle with imposter syndrome.  So what can you do to overcome these feelings?  Here are four steps you can take to help you thrive in spite of imposter syndrome:

1. Recognize and acknowledge imposter syndrome: It's important to recognize that these feelings are common and that you're not alone in experiencing them. You can also try reframing your negative self-talk into positive affirmations. Instead of focusing on your perceived weaknesses, remind yourself of your strengths and accomplishments.

2. Practice self-compassion: Rather than being harsh and self-critical, it is important to practice self-compassion. Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer to a friend. Be patient with yourself, and remind yourself that making mistakes and experiencing setbacks is a natural part of growth and learning.

3. Build a support system: Having a supportive network can be a key factor in overcoming imposter syndrome. Surround yourself with people who believe in you and your abilities, and who will encourage and uplift you when you are feeling doubt or uncertainty. Seek out mentors, peers, or friends who can provide guidance and support as you navigate your professional or personal life. You may be surprised by the positive feedback you receive.

4. Step out of your comfort zone:  Try to embrace discomfort and take on new challenges. Remember that failure is a natural part of the learning process and that every successful person has experienced setbacks and made mistakes along the way. By stepping out of your comfort zone and taking on new challenges, you can build resilience and confidence, ultimately overcoming Imposter Syndrome.

Imposter Syndrome can be a significant barrier to personal and professional growth, but it is a common experience that can be overcome. By recognizing the signs and symptoms, reframing negative self-talk, seeking support, and embracing discomfort, you can unmask the behaviors holding you back and own your success.

Thank you, Andrea for sharing your experience with us. If you are interested in writing a blog, please email amanda@911derwomen.com. Sign up for our newsletter on our homepage to stay up to date with 911der Women programming, exclusive content and blog updates. Click here and scroll to the bottom.

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